So a friend mentioned yesterday that I should update my blog. She's pretty damn right, it's been almost a month, somehow the muse has not struck. (Or bitten me in the ass, or kicked me in the shin -- sometimes I need a little persuasion.)
Today was kind of lovely. Met up with a friend for coffee (and pumpkin scones! Delish) and then over to Borders because I am becoming my mother and not only have a Borders card, but also get their coupons in my email. I got one for "40% Off Anything." Hellooooooo, how can Barb's daughter and Thelma's granddaughter resist something like that? Turns out they were having an awesome sale on a lot of things, so I got
Bedknobs and Broomsticks (love love love the old school live action/animation) for 30% off, Amy Sedaris'
I Like You for $4.99, and
Hiking Colorado for 40% off, which is pretty rad. If the weather's nice tomorrow, I want to go for a hike. I've not been hiking in ages; growing up in the boonies of Colorado, I heard so many horror stories about people going hiking in the winter and dying of hypothermia or getting eaten by mountain lions that I didn't think I wanted to risk that during my first winter back in Colorado. Then we went for a drive in the mountains and oh! it is beautiful here. When I think of where I could be (Fort Polk and Fort Drum come to mind), I am doubly triply bajilliontly grateful.
This week I went to my second memorial service. Those are one of those things that I think everyone should experience. The reality of war becomes much starker and more rooted in reality. A few words from the chaplain, a memorial by the commander, then one or two of the Soldier's friends speak. "Big, happy, dirty mechanic," "always there to make someone else's day better," "I saw this giant guy lumbering toward me that first day and wondered what the hell was going to happen -- he ended up being one of my best friends." Seeing a Soldier in full dress uniform fighting to hold back tears as they speak about one of their best friends, someone they considered their brother...it's not easy. The First Sergeant does the final roll call. First the names of the surviving members of the unit. "Here, First S'arnt!" "Here, First S'arnt!" Then the fallen's last name...no answer. They call him by his first and last name...no answer. Finally, and for the last time, they call out their full name...still no answer. The strains of "Amazing Grace" begin from just outside the chapel, and a piper in full regalia emerges to walk slowly past the boots and dog tags. He marches past the sea of green, a hundred Soldiers in dress greens or Class A's, and after interminable seconds, walks through the front doors of the chapel with the doors clicking shut behind him. The music fades away as you hear the shots ring out through the last, dying notes of the piper. A lone bugler plays "Taps" while everyone in the chapel stands at attention. Finally, the family is escorted to the front to say their last good-byes, and row by row, the chapel pays their respects. Two by two, the Soldiers salute their fallen brother for the last time. Everyone walks out in silence with that reminder of the true cost of war foremost in their thoughts.
And yet, every single Soldier you thank will say simply, "I'm just doing my job," and they mean every word. They accept the job knowing those risks, and do it anyway. They attend that memorial service fully aware that could have been them, knowing that when they deploy to Afghanistan or Kuwait or some other war-torn country, they could be KIA. Knowing that they're leaving behind their loved ones, knowing that their loved ones may never see them alive again, knowing that they're going to fight a war with no real end in sight. And they do it anyway, because it's their job and they know that's what they need to do.
Sometimes I think how I could get so involved in my job so quickly and how my priorities could be rearranged so absolutely. Any sacrifice I make is nothing compared to theirs, and I feel like I've been granted a rare opportunity to really make a direct difference in the lives of people who deserve it so much.
And yes, I know there's a lot that needs to be improved in our modern military. I don't have rose-colored glasses on about that. But I'm working with what's here now, and trying to make that part a little bit better. Someday I'll figure out the perfect work/life balance. Right now I'm so glad I get to do what I do, and experience these memorial services and firsthand accounts of hand-to-hand fighting and talk to a Soldier when they're experiencing the terror of their friend with terrible TBI losing a parent. He's your buddy. You're there for him.
Working with and for such incredible, resilient people makes every day something to remember. I still can't quite believe I stumbled into such an amazing job, but every day I can't put into words how grateful I am.